[Rant] Irresponsible People

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Haven’t done one of these in a few months…but something I experienced a few days ago made me decide to write one.

When you tell someone that you’re going to help them with something, you should at least take it seriously. At least, that’s what I think. Apparently, though, some people seem to feel like this sort of thing comes with an unspoken, “If I feel like it” tacked on at the end.

I should probably give you a brief (Sort of) description of what happened.

I was part of an outdoor event that needed volunteers to help out, and we were seriously short on volunteers so I asked some friends who were planning on coming anyways to help out. They didn’t want to get up early in the morning, so I arranged it with the organizer so that they could come later. They helped out during the first part, and then told me they were going to explore a little bit. I wanted to get lunch, so I told them the time they had to be back and left.

A little while later, I thought maybe I’d explore with them, spend a little time with my friends, since they came to this event because of me. I text them and find out they’ve apparently bussed to a completely different part of the city. I asked if they were going to come back soon. You know what reply I got?

Something along these lines: “It’s too cold, so we don’t want to help anymore. We’re not coming back, we decided to go to the mall and we’re going out to eat later instead.”

Great. Thanks.

It was so last-minute that for the next part of the event, where we needed more volunteers, some of the volunteers ended up having to take way too much of the work. And we scrambled to think of a way to make things a little easier on them, but didn’t have much time (We had less than an hour).

No apologies or anything, either. No, “Hey, sorry, we decided to bail. Good luck.” Just straight up leaving because they felt like it, and not even knowing they did anything wrong. Really?

One of the only reasons this gets to me so much is that these were people who I thought I could trust, because they were my friends. I thought, “Hey, we can all take care of ourselves here. It’s fine if they want to explore a little on their own”, not “Maybe I should babysit them to make sure they don’t run off”. I really thought that they wouldn’t bail on me just because they felt like it because I would never do that. Guess I was wrong.

Irresponsible people in general, though, have always bothered me. Sure, we’ve all broken promises. I have, too. But it’s things like this especially that irritate me. When people break promises on a whim, only thinking of themselves, and not of the people who may be affected by it.

When you commit to helping with someone, if you end up not doing it, then somebody else has to do it. So, basically, you’re being irresponsible and forcing somebody else to take up your responsibilities at the last-minute.

And this means that your friends will probably see you as much less reliable. That should be a given. But maybe having your friends think of you as reliable and dependable isn’t important to you. If nobody thinks you’re reliable or dependable, you’re never going to be asked for any favours, right?

I know I’m being totally cynical right now, and yes, I am exaggerating. But that doesn’t mean I think any of this is untrue or that I am any less annoyed than I seem to be with with this kind of irresponsibility.

Another thing that comes out of this?

Now all the people who organized and volunteered at the event (Many of whom I know personally) also know how…great my friends are.

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Well…That Was Rude

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Hi everyone…so, as you can tell from the title, this isn’t going to be a very happy-go-lucky post.

The other day, I was walking down the street with a friend, and this woman was just walking towards us in a straight line, not making any effort at all to dodge us or move, so we stepped apart and she walked right between us without a word or even a glance.

My friend was pretty unlucky, though…her reaction time wasn’t quite fast enough, and so what did this lady do?

Shoved her. Yeah, just pushed her towards the curb (That’s dangerous, lady!). Again, done without a word or even a glance, just shoved her out of the way and kept walking like nothing had happened.

Well, then…that was obviously not very nice. The people you encounter sometimes…I mean, hello? Some manners would be nice, thanks.

I mean, yes, we all have those moments where we forget our manners and whatnot. But doing things like that is just…well…let’s just say it wasn’t exactly a pleasant experience.

Lesson learned: Don’t go around shoving people on the street because that’s rude.

…perhaps lesson ‘reaffirmed’ would be a better way to put it.

[Mini-Rant] #LOLROFLTBH #HOWABOUTNO

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These little things called ‘hashtags’…I’ve been seeing them literally everywhere. On Twitter, Facebook posts and even when I’m chatting with people. Both online and in real life. And all of those little acronyms? These have been slowly making their way into my conversations with others. In real life. Who needs real words, am I right?

Well, my first problem is with hashtags in chats. What is even the point? They don’t link to anything, they don’t actually do anything, so why put them there in the first place? Tagging things in posts and pictures and whatnot I can understand, and the ridiculous, over-the-top ones are even sort of funny, However…do you really need to use one every 3 sentences in a chat?

Next…all these ‘LOL’, ‘ROFL’, ‘TBH’, ‘BRB’ types of things? I get why people use them in chat and texting…heck, even I occasionally use them. They save time and are way easier to type in a rush. But, in real life, it just sounds weird in a conversation when you start saying, “TBH, that didn’t taste very good, LOL.”. Or “I’ll BRB”. We are all perfectly capable of saying, “To be honest” or “Be right back”, I’m sure. And saying “LOL” instead of actually laughing is a little sad…TBH.

And people who say ‘hashtag’ in real life? Don’t even get me started.

Honestly, though…I never really understand why people do that. I guess there’s nothing I can do about it except watch as it gets more and more prominent. Well…maybe someone out there will understand how I feel. Or not.

Mini-Rant: No Smoking Signs

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No-smoking signs…you’ve probably seen at least one of these somewhere. It’s probably more likely you’ve seen a million of these hard to miss, bright red signs. They’re supposed to prevent people from smoking in places where it might bother others…mostly really public places, like mall entrances, school, government institutions, etc.

The sad reality: People are always ignoring them. I see people smoking around them constantly, sometimes even right in front of them.

Do you people not see the signs? Or do you really just not care? These people should really show some respect for others.

I have a friend who has mild asthma and the smoke from cigarettes bother her a lot…if there’s a lot of it, she starts coughing and such. One day, we were at school and were waiting for one of our other friends and sat down on the bench. We sat right in front of the area with the ‘No Smoking’ sign and then, along comes this guy…who just starts smoking, pretty much right beside the sign.

We ended up moving because she was too close to the smoke…hello, do you not see the girl coughing while running in the opposite direction?

Apparently not, because he just keeps blowing smoke.

Well, okay.

I might not start coughing, but I don’t like being surrounded by clouds of smoke, thank you very much. If you want to smoke, that’s your choice and I’m not going to say anything about that, but at least do it somewhere where you’re actually allowed to. Not in front of the mall doors when there are signs that specifically say “No smoking within 10 metres of this building”.

The signs are there for a reason, people…let’s show a little respect, alright?

Random Acts Of Kindness…

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So…everyone’s probably heard of this and has, hopefully, experienced at least one of these in their lives.

These little acts of kindness don’t take much time or effort (Or money), but they can make someone’s day at least a little better…or maybe even totally make their day!

Like what happened to me today, on a mundane trip to the grocery store for some Thanksgiving turkey:
1) I insert $0.25 to get a cart…the stupid thing is stuck. One of the employees sees me struggling with the cart, stops what he’s doing, and (With some fancy manoeuvring of the next cart), yanks it out for me.

2) I go to the cash and struggle to put both 10 lb. turkeys on the conveyor awkwardly by myself (Thanks, mom…I don’t know whether to be flattered or not that she thought I could actually manage to carry all that alone), and this guy behind me asks me if I need help and actually picks up the other one and puts it down for me.

That not only made my day better, but it also reminded me that there are nice people within those crowds of annoyed, rude shoppers all pushing and shoving and trying to get to the sale stuff.

It’s also reminded me that even if it’s just a little thing, I can make someone’s day better…